The term “Journey of Self-discovery” refers to a series of events whereby a person attempts to determine how they feel about spiritual issues or priorities, rather than following the opinions of family, friends or peer pressure.
Self-discovery is the capacity of humans to exercise introspection,
The willingness to learn more about their fundamental
nature and purpose.
If the only emotion concepts you recognize are “I feel good” and “I feel bad” you’re not going to be very emotionally healthy. But, if you’re able to distinguish the more specific “I feel alone” from merely “I feel bad” you’re able to deal with the problem.
Examining your life under a microscope can be uncomfortable and gruesome.
You will be grateful for starting the process of self discovery, because rewards unfold when you know more about yourself. Understand how you make improvements to your behavior, thoughts and emotions. Uncovering answers will help peel off layer-by-layer the negative thoughts that have imprinted in your mind. These negative thoughts and beliefs are your obstacles to inner growth.
You’ve probably never thought about learning words as a path to greater emotional health.
Words Seed Your Concepts
Concepts Drive Your Predictions
Predictions Regulate Your Body
Your Body Determines How You Feel.
The greater your vocabulary
the more precisely your brain can calibrate your body’s needs.
People who exhibit higher emotional expression
- Go to the doctor less frequently
- Use medication less frequently
- Spend fewer days hospitalized for illness
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This insight is directly connected to your relationship with others. Most importantly it’s also connected to our relationship with the Universe (God). What we believe about the Universe (God) and it’s expectations for us is vital to what we believe about ourselves.
Self discovery is not an a one day or a one week affair.
It can take a lifetime of building a relationship with yourself. Note that your inner self is not going to stay constant either. You are evolving all the time. Based on your self discovery at any point in time, you make conscious decisions for changes. Additionally, as you mature, you gain insights that make up the new you.
Self-discovery is about being mindful of who you really are, instead of what culture says you should be.
It is important to ask yourself what you want out of life and work towards it. Aligning with your soul’s’ purpose brings about fulfilment. Without a purpose and direction, you are going to feel like a ship which is going nowhere. I can assure you that if you don’t go through this process of evaluation on what your purpose is, you are going to experience regret while on your deathbed.
You need to confront your emotional issues and weaknesses
because they reveal the separation from the real you.
The real you is authentic, loving and nurturing. The process of self discovery is not just about unearthing nasty stuff about yourself. It is about honoring your strengths and abilities. As you become more aware of what you are good at, you lessen the list on weaknesses.
Learn to forgive yourself.
Negative beliefs tend to invade every aspect of your life. If you have feelings of low self worth, then you are likely to carry them in the relationships you have at home, in the office, with your friends, relatives and loved ones.
You, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. When your outer self is aligned with your inner being, you will feel happy and free!
What Can I Do To Change My Life?
This question is simple, the answer is quite complexed. Especially, to those in the chronic illness community.
Let’s establish a foundation to the development of a healthy mindset. Living with the many ways chronic illness changes your life, places stress on your life, making you feel damaged, weakened, and even broken. As people go through life they develop active or passive attitudes depending on comfort and/or feeling in control of that situation. Often, chronic illness forces us into a self-protective, subconscious reaction by taking control of our emotional and physical surroundings.
To achieve this, we develop a Fixed Mindset.
A Fixed Mindset is when you need to look smart and in control while internally feeling weak and out of control. In order to achieve this, you develop a Fixed Mindset and you:
- Avoid Challenges
- Give Up Easily
- See Effort As Fruitless Or Worse
- Ignore Useful Negative Feedback
- Feel Threatened By The Success Of Others
This Fixed Mindset obviously leads to stagnation and the feeling of being physically and emotionally stuck.
You want to change your life and so you have to do the opposite. Our starting point is Changing YOUR Mindset.
The key to any successful life change is a Positive Growth Mindset.
The very first and most important step is, change your thought patterns. If you are thinking negatively about life and all the things around, then you should change your thoughts.
To really change your life, you need a Positive Growth Mindset.
Having a Growth Mindset you can change anything in your life. The view you adopt in your life changes the way you lead your life.
Having a growth mindset means:
- Seeing Effort As Path To Mastery
- Learning From Criticism
- Finding Lessons Of Inspiration In The Success Of Others
- Embracing Challenges
- Persisting In The Face Of Setbacks
The result is a better sense of free will. You create a life that YOU desire.
POSITIVE GROWTH MINDSET
Keep a Positive Growth Mindset.
Dive deep into it and urge yourself to ask even more questions.
- Every person is unique,
- Every person is connected with everyone
- Each person needs to develop his/her personal reality.
That should be based on what is real, valid, no matter the time, place, circumstances. Then, you can develop methods, explanations, perception suitable to your uniqueness, and compatible with the rest of the universe.
If you really want to change your life, watch for my next post “The 2 Minute Rule”
- The guy who jumps onto subway tracks to save a stranger with a train approach
- The clerk who chases down a robber,
- A passerby stops at an accident site to save victims:
When you hear stories of incredible acts of courage,
Do you wonder, would I do the same?
Some scientists say those risk takers are wired differently, Studies show genetics play a significant role in the willingness to take risks. Recent research finds environmental factors and emotions greatly influence risk-taking behavior too. Other scientists look to brain mechanisms for answers:
“The best things in life are on the other side of fear!” – Will Smith
A great example of this situation is explained by Will Smith when he went skydiving. He explained this “The concept of fear” is only present up until the point where he took action. Immediately afterward he was in the moment – after he left the airplane it was pure bliss.
Courage and muscle have a lot in common.
The more they are used them the stronger they become. Neglected they slowly become frail, weak, and atrophied.
Make a list, a long list of everything thing that scares you and slowly tackle each one by one. Start small and build up. Just like exercising a muscle – exercise your courage. The more often you do so the stronger it will get and the more confidence you will build to tackle bigger and bigger challenges.
Let’s look at some easy ones you can try.
- The Coffee Shop Challenge – Go to your area coffee shop, place your coffee order, and when you’re ready to pay – Ask them for a 10% discount.
- The Eye Contact Challenge – While walking in public, make eye contact with the people you pass. Keep eye contact until one of you break it. It’s important that you keep an open/warm/positive expression on your face (you don’t want to look scary or crazy).
- The Laying Down Challenge – Walk into a crowded place and lay down for 15 – 20 seconds. Do not select a place where you will be a nuisance. If someone asks what you’re doing, just tell them you’re taking a break and collecting your thoughts.
- The Cold Shower Challenge – This is one of my best discoveries: The last 2 minutes of my shower I turn off all the hot water and blast the cold. It’s something that I do because I feel great afterward. I do it instinctively now, without hesitation or thinking of it, but when I got started I would get really nervous before doing it. On a lesser scale, it’s like that skydiving example – it’s scary before you do it, it’s intense while the cold water is flowing, it’s amazing afterward.
“Courage is not the absence of fear, but the capacity to act despite our fears.” – John McCain
- Public Speaking Challenge – There the old saying that people are more afraid of public speaking than they are of dying. There are many sources of information across the internet. Why? Because almost everyone has a fear of public speaking. Toast Masters is a great way to practice!
You should definitely find things that make you so nervous that you feel it in the pit of your stomach. The more you practice, the stronger you will become!
There are many different kinds of courage required in life, and you will hardly find one person who has them all.
Some people are fearless when approaching girls/guys or standing up to bullies. Going to the gym as an overweight person, the safety of a steady salary to become an entrepreneur, quitting an addiction, ending toxic relationships, chasing your dreams etc.l
Courage isn’t a habit you can form, but a choice you must make that doesn’t get easier each time.
Now that your path becomes more organized and clear
You will begin to like you.When you begin to like you, you will do what you like.
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If you believe in being brave, you will be brave. Just believe and become. But first have a clear mind to focus, remove the things pulling you back.
Scientists don’t know for sure if being courageous is something you’re born with; they also don’t know whether we can target the parts of the brain active in overcoming certain fears. What experts do know is that many different behaviors and traits define a courageous act, some of which can be learned.
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Practice courage often. Display it by doing and trying different things. Things Like being unique, or facing a fear. Big challenges produce big courage but small ones every so often maintain its strength.
Do what scares you. Quieting your fear of is putting yourself in the thick of it. Plus, by choosing to face your fear, it gives you a feeling of control. Believe in your own ability to achieve a goal and a component of courageous acts.
Plan to be brave. Being prepared may help you draw on that reservoir of courage; the moment of indecisiveness is when your emotions come in.”
Remember the why. Courage is more than just facing fear; it involves taking risks for a noble or good cause. Focus on the reason you wanted to take an action to help boost confidence. When that reason is important or morally right, it may be the most encouraging of all.
Behind me is infinite power, before me is endless possibility, around me is limitless opportunity.
We are in control of our lives through the power of love, knowledge and positive thinking. Through responsible decisions and striving to maintain clarity of mind there is power. With power over ourselves we can each shape our realities into a peaceful haven. The places you have been were on the path you have chosen thus far. That path is now behind you. In front of you is the endless possibility to create your ideal life. Looking around, you can find paths of limitless opportunity.
The power has been given to us through love, and with it we can love our lives and the lives of others enough to bring each of us the life of bliss we most desire. The power of love should be handled with a sense of clarity about one’s desires. Emotional stability is an important part of health. Knowledge to recognize which desires will truly benefit ourselves, and those around us, will safeguard us from the lesser desires we would have let get the best of us.
The best parts of you are ready to be tapped into at any time. You have brought yourself to this point in time. It is you who has created the current circumstances of your life. It is also you who has the power to change those circumstances now. There is nothing stopping you except for yourself. There are endless possibilities that one person can do for themselves and those around them through the power of love. Making clear decisions and deciding upon your strongest desires is a step you must take to promote the power you already have and have used.
Around yourself the universe has placed infinite possibilities through both obvious and hidden opportunities. If you can clue into your surroundings well enough, you will see opportunity everywhere. Taking an opportunity will only open more opportunities for that same avenue. Choose wisely which opportunities to pursue, and be aware that there are ALWAYS opportunities around you. Choosing desires carefully will help you focus yourself into which opportunities to choose.
There is a path which you are already on, and with the limitless powers within you have created this moment for yourself. Cherish this moment and open your eyes to the power you have, and to the opportunity surrounding you. Everything you need is here for you to follow the path meant for your life so long as you stay true to your heart.
[notice]EDITORS NOTE: We would like to welcome Stephanie Crystal as a contributing author to CITB. Her positive outlook will be welcome here and we are sure you will forward to this and future post by her.[/notice]