Aug 30 2013

17 Counter Intuitive Things

You’re always going to get the same results, doing what everyone else does.  Sometimes you have to know when to zig where others zag These are some of the counterintuitive lessons I've learned and applied from the most successful folks I've met. 

Pick Fights – to test others’ resolve in their own beliefs.  In business you can’t turn over the reins to someone who doesn't know how to defend their own ideas and plans.

Isolate Yourself – to reenergize.  Many seemingly extroverts are introverts.  If you recharge when by yourself, you need to seek out isolation from time to time.

Purposefully Offend – sometimes the only way to get someone’s attention is to call him or her out.  But, you can always positively turn the relationship around with persistence and some mea culpa.

Hyper Self-Critical – of your own standards and choices.  I once watched  George Carlin berate himself on stage, in a rehearsal standup performance, for missing the timing of one of his jokes by a few seconds.  He nailed the follow-up HBO special.

Peacock – don’t give others the option not to see you or hear your message.  The pick-up lesson from “The Game” applies to business as well.  Nobody buys a product they’ve never seen.  (TIP: more of my thoughts on marketing and publicity).

Repeat Mistakes – enough times until you really learn the lesson.  Sometimes, mistakes do need to be repeated if the payoff is big enough.  We hardly ever learn anything truly worthwhile after one try.

Seek Out Rejection – to get desensitized to the fear of it.   Once we lose the fear of rejection we more easily go after what we want, and thus get more of it.  (TIP: more details in the 5 Steps Sales Process)

Ignore Consensus – when your own data and foresight is convincingly contrary to the wisdom of the crowd (like Jobs, MLK, Gandhi).  Consensus bonds us together and creates harmony, but it rarely moves us forward.  Progress sometimes has to come at the hands of an individual’s decisive disruption.

Expect Nothing – in return for helping your peers. Karma points are dispersed unexpectedly over decades, not in a scorecard of dollars.

Quit – those endeavors you’ll never win at, and take a new swing at the plate.  Don’t double down on a losing effort by not knowing when to walk away.   (TIP: watch How to Make the Right Business Decisions)

Play Possum – with your competitors.  Don’t be so eager to show off your strengths until it’s the perfect time to strike.   If rope-a-dope worked for The Champ, it will for you too.

Get C’s instead of A’s – if you excel in non-traditional environments (like entrepreneurs) & can justify the opportunity cost of your time.  Oddly enough, more of the C students I went to school with, employ our A student classmates, than vice versa.  (TIP: I explain this point in more detail in video here)

Become Indifferent to Slights – because time and energy are too valuable to waste on petty matters.  Attention being paid to wounds of our ego is precious energy diverted from achieving our goals.  You can win the argument, or win the game.  I know what I’d choose.

Self-Sabotage – yourself when you find yourself mired in complacency.  Don’t ever get too comfortable with the status quo, always be willing to blow it up and start all over again to truly create something better.

Abstain from Work – which others can do for you.  Delegate every task that others can do 80% as well as you, and focus on those items that only you can achieve that have big payoffs.   (TIP: focus on The One Most Important Thing)

Plot & Scheme – your next couple moves ahead.  If you don’t see the whole landscape of the playing field, you’re bound to get sideswiped.  Know where you’re going far in advance of making your first move.

Underestimate Demand – for your products and services.  Don't ever assume people want what you got, and you’ll always have the appropriate amount of urgency and hustle to validate what you're trying to achieve.

Aug 25 2013

The Phoenix Rises From the Ashes…

The reports of my death have been greatly exaggerated. - Mark Twain

For the first time in 6 months, I am encouraged to say that I finally seem to be on the path to my health recovery. After suffering a stroke, a cancer scare, a deep chronic internal organ infection, several hospitalizations, and a number of other maladies, it appears as though I am on the road to recovery. I have had 10 functional (Read that as "Not Bedridden") days in a row. This is the most in the 6 months. I am sure there will be some setbacks as I ease back into day-to-day life. I think I can say that it looks like I have survived the "Scientific Wild Ass Guessing" of 14 different doctors.

I have recently started hormone replacement therapy and I will soon be in the care of a pain management team. I plan on switching to a new psychiatrist in hopes of getting proper care for my ADD and other mental health issues. In addition, I have started a course of homeopathic medications and vitamin supplements. I am still very limited in what I can do on a daily basis but, I think I see a light at the end of the tunnel. I have learned a great deal about the current state of health care in the US today and will be writing and blogging on that in the near future.

To those of you who have reached out to me over the last few months I thank you. The plan is I will restart up my publishing company, Nascent Digital Press, on September 1st. provided my health continues to improve. I will be publishing my 19th book on on that day. For those who might like to see some of my current 18 titles please look here:

All books are available as Kindle e-books or paperbacks. If you're looking for a good book to introduce you to my writing style I recomend "Man Up!" or "Real Woman" they are a complementary set.

Jun 18 2013

99 Texting Acronyms You Should Know

Texting, instant messaging and chat rooms use a strange, new language that’s filled with abbreviations and acronyms designed to quickly communicate and easily disguise a myriad of sex and drug terminology. It’s beyond the comprehension of most adults. Some of the abbreviations and acronyms have been created so that kids can continue their conversation with friends while a parent is watching over their shoulder, confident the old folks are clueless. For example, if you saw your daughter sending the text message, “PAW GYPO & Ill GNOC later” would you know she just scheduled a time for a naked video camera session after you go to bed for the night? And what’s more frightening than not knowing when your 13-year old keyed LMIRL in a chat room, it meant “Let’s meet in real life?” So here you go. Here’s the Rosetta Stone of texting/chatting/emailing. A comprehensive guide to acronyms, abbreviations, phrases and lingo to look for on your kid’s phone or computer. Some are outright disgusting and we hope you never see your kids use them. Others are harmless on their own but still important to know in context. If you feel guilty taking a peek at your little darling’s computer and phone, remember one thing: You paid for them. Warning: many of these terms are offensive

Texting Abbreviations, Acronyms and other lingo

8 = Oral sex 9 = Parent is watching 99 = Parent no longer watching 143 = I love you 182 = I hate you 459 = I love you 831 = I love you 1174 = Nude club 420 = Marijuana 4Q = F*** You ADR = Address AITR = Adult in the room ASL = Age/Sex/Location Banana = Penis BJ = Blow job BOB = Battery operated boyfriend CBF = Can’t be f***ed CBJ = Covered blow job CD9 or Code 9 = Parents are around CYT = See you tomorrow DURS = Damn you’re sexy DUM = Do you masturbate? DUSL = Do you scream loud? F2F = Face to face FAH = F**king A hot FB = F*** buddy FBI = Female Body Inspector FILF = Father I’d like to F*** FMLTWIA = F*** Me Like The Whore I Am FMUTA = F*** Me Up The A** FO = F*** Off FOL = Fond of leather FWB = Friends with benefits GAP = Got a pic? GNOC = Get naked On cam GYPO = Get your pants off H4Y = Hot for you I%I = Intercourse and inebriation F/IB = In the front or in the back IIT = Is it tight? ILF/MD = I love female/male dominance IMEZRU = I am easy, are you? IWSN = I want sex now ILU = I love you IPN = I’m posting naked ITS = Intense text sex JAFO = Just another f***ing onlooker J/O = Jerking off JEOMK = Just ejaculated on my keyboard KFY or K4Y = Kiss for you Kitty = Vagina KPC = Keeping parents clueless KWSTA = Kiss with serious tongue action LB?W/C = Like bondage? Whips or chains LF = Let’s f*** LHOS = Let’s have online sex LHSO = Let’s have sex online LKITR = Little kid in the room LMIRL = Let’s meet in real life LY* or LU* = Anything beginning with these are forms of I love you M4C = Meet for coffee MorF = Male or female MOOS = Member of the opposite sex MOFO = Mother f***er MOS = Mom over shoulder MILF = Mother I’d like to f*** MIRL = Meet in real life MOS = Mom Over Shoulder MPFB = My personal f*** buddy MSNUW = Miniskirt no underwear MA = mature audience NIFOC = Nude in front of the computer NSFW = Not safe for work OLL = Online love P911 = Parent alert PAL = Parents are listening PAW = Parents are watching PIR = Parent in room PBB = Parent behind back PLOS = Parents looking over shoulder POM = Parent over my shoulder POS = Parent over shoulder or piece Of sh** PRW = Parents are watching PRON = Porn Q2C = Quick To cum RU/18 = Are you over 18? RUH = Are you horny? RYO = Roll your own S2R = Send to receive (photo) SorG = Straight or gay STM = Spank the monkey TAW = Teachers are watching TDTM = Talk dirty to me TTA = Tap that ass WYFM = Would you f*** me? WYCM = Will you call me? WYRN = What’s your real name? WUF = Where you from? XTC = Ecstasy

May 22 2013

10 Unexpected Ways to Meditate Every Day

Ready to get Zen? Meditation can do way more than people think — and it’s not just for hippies. Practicing meditation regularly has legitimate health advantages, especially for the brain. Studies suggest meditation can do it all: reduce anxiety and sensitivity to pain, make us smarterward off sickness, and prevent stress [1] [2]If carving out an hour to sit on a cushion doesn't float your boat, there are many unexpected ways to meditate every day. Get the benefits of meditation by trying out an alternative style from the list below.

Zen Zone — Your Action Plan

Standing Meditation: Standing instead of sitting to meditate canrelieve lower back pain and promote a greater sense of internal stability. As with any form of meditation, begin with a short period of time — start with five minutes only. Stand in a comfortable, straight posture with the feet pointing straight forward, about shoulder width apart. After settling into the position, do a quick full-body “scan,” releasing tension and bringing awareness to every part of the body. Walking Meditation: In walking meditation, called kinhin in the Zen tradition, practitioners move slowly and continuously while staying aware of the body and mind. For this form of meditation, use good posture (just like seated meditation), take deep breaths, and experience the motions of the body. The walking movement should be continuous, so pick a safe place with space to roam around, like a large park or field. Tai Chi: This ancient wellness practice, which means “Grand Ultimate” in Chinese, is all about aligning energy in the body as well as the mind. In traditional Chinese medicine, illness or pain happens when the life force, chi, is disrupted [3]. The contemplative practice of tai chi — which looks like slow-motion dancing — is supposed to realign the body’s chi. This form of moving meditation may increase memory and brain size [4], as well as alleviate symptoms of fibromyalgia. Find a local class here. Qigong: Like Tai Chi, Qigong is a form of “moving meditation” that uses rhythmic physical movements to focus and center the mind. Qigong is also used to regulate, maintain, and heal the body’s chi or energy force. The practice works as a combination of meditation and low-impact exercise and can reduce stress and anxiety, improve blood flow, and increase energy. Studies have shown that qigong meditation is an effective therapy for those overcoming substance abuse, especially for women [5]. Because it combines mindful meditation with body movements, qigong can be used as a mental, physical, or spiritual exercise. Integrated Amrita Meditation Technique: Mata Amritanandamayi, an Indian humanitarian and spiritual leader known as “Amma” (mother) or “The Hugging Saint,” invented this practice to help people redirect energyin a positive way. Each session of IAM takes 20 to 30 minutes and includes postures, pranayama breathing, and meditation. Participants spend the first eight or so minutes doing yoga, followed by deep breathing and meditation. According to one study, the practice actually lowers the levels of stress hormones cortisol and adrenaline in the body. Find a practice in your area here. Dance Meditation: Get ready to boogie — meditation just got a soundtrack! Most people, at one time or another, have put on some tunes and cut the rug to chill out after a tough day. Dance or kundalini meditation takes that release one step farther by asking participants to let go of the ego and surrender to the rhythms and ecstasies of movement. Some classes encourage yelling, jumping, and even hooting like an owl! Dance meditation may not be for the faint of heart — or arm or leg — but it can be a great way to release tension and get in touch with our instincts. Daily Life Practice Meditation: Does high-energy dance sound a bit too wacky? Bring meditation back to a more reasonable pace with daily life practice meditation, which is also called Samu work meditation in the Buddhist Zen tradition. In this style of meditation, practitioners slow down daily activities to half-speed and use the extra time to be mindful and focus on thoughts. There’s no need to sign up for a class when it’s possible to meditate while washing dishes, taking a shower, walking down the subway steps… Hand Movement Meditation: For many people, the toughest part of meditation is sitting without moving for an extended period of time. It’s sohard to resist the urge to pick at an itchy spot because scratching activates areas of the brain that control pain and compulsive behavior. What’s the best solution to this conundrum? Try hand movement meditation, in which participants focus on moving the hands slowly and mindfully. Gazing Meditation: If staring into space or spacing out is your jam, try Trataka or fixed-gazing meditation. This unusual style of meditation encourages participants to focus inward by staring at a fixed object while sitting or standing. Trataka has many alleged benefits, from physical plusses like eye health and headache relief to mental advantages such as lower stress levels and better focus. If outdoors, fix the gaze on a natural object like a stone, tree, or even the moon (just avoid staring at the sun). Indoors, try looking at the center of a lit candle or an interactive computer graphic. Trataka can be pretty intense, so start very slowly — stare for just 15 to 20 seconds, with plenty of rest time. Eventually work up to 10 or 15 minutes. Breathing Meditation: This technique takes those pre-yoga class "Oms" to the next level. Also called yogic breathing or Pranayama, this meditation style is all about controlling the inhales and exhales. Greatist Expert Dr. Jeffrey Rubin explains, "Longer exhales tend to be calming, while longer inhales are energizing. For meditative purposes either the ratio of exhale to inhale is even or the exhale is longer than the inhale for a calming effect." This type of meditation can be done anywhere, anytime (except underwater, for obvious reasons). Meditation can mean much more than sitting on a pillow for an hour. Try one of these alternative meditation styles to find the best fit and incorporate mindfulness into any daily routine.

Apr 23 2013

The Minimalistic Gmail Cheat Sheet

Mar 11 2013

9 Tips to Happiness and Well-Being

best-exercise-lose-weightFocusing on your emotional health isn't hard, but it may be an adjustment for you. Some simple — and really enjoyable — changes are all it takes to boost happiness and well-being. Follow these ideas to strengthen your emotional health:

  • Exercise. It protects physical and emotional health, relieves stress, and makes you feel good.
  • Make time for laziness. You don't have to be constantly on the go — that's how you get run down. Spend a little time each day or each week doing something you enjoy that is completely frivolous. For example, watch TV or a silly movie, chat on the phone, play a game, or just listen to music.
  • Spend some time in the sun. With sunscreen, of course. But sunlight is a great natural way to boost your mood.
  • Deal with your emotions. Learn how to properly deal with stress, anger, and anxiety instead of keeping them bottled up inside.
  • Be healthy inside. This means avoiding junk food and sticking to a healthy diet. You should also steer clear of smoking, drug use, and too much alcohol.
  • Treat your senses. Do little things that make you happy and stimulate your senses, like lighting a scented candle, buying some fresh-cut flowers, indulging in a massage, or treating yourself to your favorite food or drink.
  • Sleep. Everyone gets cranky without enough sleep, so dedicate adequate sleep time every night. Or treat yourself to a nap every now and then.
  • Be creative. Spend some time learning new things, like a new language or skill (for example, music or knitting). Even just working in your garden can help you relax and feel satisfied.
  • Adopt an animal. Pets offer fun, relaxation, and a whole lot of love. They can encourage you to exercise, and tear your attention away from stressful activities.

The bottom line is pretty simple: take time for happiness. Allow yourself to enjoy life, fun, and relaxation. Be thankful for what you have, and enjoy it.


Mar 09 2013

Things I Have Learned…

The Lessons
  1. man-and-woman-in-loveYou can’t look for a long term partner and a sexual encounter at the same time. You must look in different places, with different techniques. For example, in a place with loud music, it is impossible for a potential partner to get you know you. Someone just looking for sex does not care. As a general rule, the longer you postpone getting into bed, the longer your partner will hang around afterward.
  2. When you are young, you tend to seek the best looking partner. This attractiveness will be gone in a flash. Instead pick someone easy to live with who has no nerve-grating habits.
  3. There are three kinds of people:
    1. Those that like you naturally, or who would if they met you.
    2. Those that like you only while you are performing a mating dance with a steady stream of compliments, gifts, entertainments and undivided attention.
    3. Those that will never like you, including ones who had a relationship with you in the past and decided they did not like you after all.

    For the purposes of finding a suitable partner, studiously ignore anyone in category 2 or 3 no matter how attractive.

  4. Most of your time you spend wishing for things, sometimes things you might buy, but it could be relationships, health, physical fitness, political changes… But think. In past, every time you achieved one of these things, the pleasure is momentary, sometimes over in a fraction of a second, and rarely lasting more than a week. So to achieve continuous happiness this way requires some major achievement or acquisition every couple of days. This is impossible. If you want a continuously happy life, you must do it by learning to appreciate what is under your nose, here and now. Your desires seductively promise happiness if you but become a slave to them, but they cannot deliver.
  5. The life lesson I most wish I had learned early in life is: If your partner dumps you, that is absolute proof they were not the one no matter how attached you feel, no matter how much you believe you could never love another, no matter how great it used to be, no matter if the heartbreak is the worst pain you ever felt. P.S. Your partner did not dump you if all they did was have sex with someone else.
  6. fruitsaladPlay with your food! Do this, not to be virtuous, but out of curiosity. For three days, drop some food from your diet and pay attention to any differences. Do you have more or less energy? Do you sleep better or worse? Do you have more or less diarrhea? Are you more or less constipated? Do you have more or less gas? Do you feel more or less irritable? Foods you might consider for experimentation include: sugar, coffee, meat, eggs, nuts, fresh fruits, orange juice, bread, pasta, corn cereals, wheat, salt, dairy products or anything you eat a large amount of. If you notice a dramatic improvement, that might motivate you to consider a permanent change in your diet putting the troublesome foods on the back burner. Similarly, try adding a new food to your diet, or increasing the amount you eat, for three days to see what happens. You might consider salads, fresh fruit, fresh vegetables, fish, vitamin supplements, protein supplements or any of the foods I mentioned earlier to try deleting. You might be surprised to discover that candy bar you grab to give you energy has the exact opposite effect. No matter what happens, whether you feel better, you feel worse or nothing at all happens, this is still useful information you can use in shaping your future diet. Something very simple might just hugely improve your life. If you do discover something significant, you will kick yourself for not doing this sooner.
  7. The past cannot be changed. The past is over. The past is frozen in liquid plastic; not a molecule can move. Yet still you say to yourself what my mother called the saddest words in the English language, if only. To say If only I had taken time to… is as silly as saying If only I had a flying pig, I could go on the Tonight Show. You cannot change the past, though you can change your attitude to it using techniques like EMDR. You cannot change the past, though you can learn from it and ensure you don’t repeat the same mistakes in future. If ever you catch yourself in regret, immediately reframe that to I must make sure I never make that mistake again and let it go.
  8. If someone does not like you, even if they once did, give up. Even if you succeed in temporarily getting them to like you, it will take escalating work to maintain the relationship. Seek your partners among those who naturally like you. The rest might as well be invisible vis a vis potential partners. Chasing after people who have rejected you is as silly as going to the movies and waiting for some movie star to become your partner. On the other hand, don’t presume people won’t like you just because they are extraordinarily wonderful or beautiful. Pay attention to the objective clues as to how well they like you, not to how well you calculate they should like you based on your relative pecking order status. Hollywood convention is that if the girl rejects the guy in the first reel, guaranteed they will be married in the last. Real life does not work that way. Movies are just wishful fantasies. If it appears no one likes you, find out why. Even a small improvement may help. Are you too clingy?, are you always thinking about what the relationship can do for you, never for your partner?, are you overweight?, do you have an unpleasant body or mouth odor , do you lack tact? You can’t change other people, but you can change yourself.
  9. Even if all your problems were caused 100% by your parents it is pointless to wring your hands about the terrible hand life dealt you. Nearly everyone heals their issues with their parents. It is just a matter of how soon you get on with it.
  10. Every moment, you are consciously or unconsciously deciding what to do next. You have some unwritten rules for deciding your priorities. You may usually do whatever makes the most money, which will be the most fun, which will be the easiest, which will give you the biggest rush, which will make you healthiest, most enlightened, most well liked, most respected, the most secure, the most laid, the most powerful, the most famous, the most feared, the best looking, the most knowledgeable etc. If you change the rules even slightly, you will live a completely different life. Try asking different questions. See what happens when you ask What will be most useful to the universe?. Your priority rules are the biggest lever you have in determining your fate. Of course the other big controlling priority is what you choose to spend your time thinking about. do-it-now-680x325
  11. Do it now! Nearly all the great mathematicians and physicists did their best work in their twenties. If you have grand dreams, realize them now. You may well not have the energy later. Time seems to stretch endlessly ahead of you, but your life is over in an eye blink.
  12. Don’t be attached to the results of your action. Constant checking to see if your work has born fruit just wastes time and causes discouragement. Some liken it to digging up a seed you have planted each day to see how it is doing. Get on with something else. Never underestimate the power of the futile gesture.
  13. Understating your case is more persuasive than overstating it. You supply the facts. Let others supply the emotion. If you supply the emotion, others will take no action, believing you must have already handled the problem.
  14. When you can’t get what you want, one alternative to trying harder to get it, is to talk yourself out of wanting it so badly, at least not getting yourself upset over it. Similarly, when people do obnoxious things, you are not obligated to get upset.
  15. You can’t tell if someone is lying just by how sincere they sound. Habitual liars are those who have polished lying to a high art. You would never suspect them based on their look or demeanor. However, I have noticed liars tend to repeat the same old talking points, and take a little too long to answer simple questions. They have to compose the answers first and think about if they are falling into a consistency trap.
  16. The years pass faster and faster as you get older. By the time you reach puberty, your life is half over in psychological time. Don’t procrastinate the truly important things.
  17. If it sounds to good to be true, it nearly always is. Don’t waste time looking for zero-effort ways to do things. You just set yourself up to be conned. Find out what methods the people who actually succeeded have used.
  18. Think globally; act locally. Saving the world is a huge job. Yours is just a small part. However, it is a necessary part.
  19. The things you worry most about almost never happen. If you don’t believe me, start tracking them.
  20. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. ~ Rita Mae Brown (born: 1944-11-28 age: 68)
  21. Other people do things that annoy you, not to annoy you, but in the usually-vain hope that doing so will make them feel better.
  22. Despite the protestations of absolute Truth, there is a tremendous amount of lying surrounding religion and spirituality.
  23. At many times in your life it will seem as if you have absolutely no energy or resources. But even then you can find something you can do that will marginally improve your lot or keep it from getting even worse than it would have naturally.
  24. If you are not making any progress on your big dreams, the very bigness of the dreams may be paralyzing you. Think instead, What could I do today that would marginally improve my lot. Focus not so much on where you want to go, but where you could go immediately from here.
  25. When you have dry congested nose, just snort up a bit of water to clean it out.
  26. Boiling water is a remarkable cleanser for kitchen or bathroom. It dissolves dried on muck, kills germs, deodorizes  leaving no residue or perfume or caustic chemical odor.
  27. The human body is only designed to last for forty years in the wild. You must take extraordinary care of it over your whole life if you want it to last you in comfort the eighty or ninety we humans live now. Don’t buy into the religious notion it is wicked to look after your body.
  28. stop-signWhile chasing after riches leads to an empty life, chasing after poverty also leads to misery. Neither extreme is as pleasant as the fairy tales make it out to be.
  29. Winning the heart of someone much more physically attractive than you can lead to misery by several routes.
    • Others will compete to woo them away.
    • You may become too besotted, and allow yourself to become psychologically enslaved.
    • Chances are they are flawed in character or some other way otherwise you would not have been able to win them. You may find you have got yourself quite a temperamental handful.
    • You can start feeling unworthy.

    You are better off finding someone more evenly matched in beauty who enjoys the same activities you do.

Mar 04 2013




When your choices are your own, you will be more likely to accept and be satisfied with the outcome of those choices.

FreewayDecision11Our lives are defined by the decisions we make each day. When we choose one option over another, whether we are selecting a restaurant or considering a cross-country move, we shape our lives. The decision-making process can be empowering, allowing us to enjoy the benefits of self-determination. Yet it can also be a source of anxiety because decisions force us to face the possibility of dissatisfaction and inner conflict. As a result, many of us opt to avoid making decisions by allowing others to make them for us. We consequently turn our power over to spouses, relatives, friends, and colleagues, granting them the stewardship of our lives that is ours by right. Though the decisions we must make are often difficult, we grow more self-sufficient and secure each time we trust ourselves enough to choose.

ChoicesUltimately, only you can know how the options before you will impact your daily life and your long-term well-being. Within you lies the power to competently weigh the advantages and disadvantages of each selection. Even if you feel incapable of making a decision, your inner wisdom and your intuitive mind will give you sound counsel if you have faith in yourself. Try to come to your own conclusions before seeking the guidance of others, and even then, treat their suggestions as supplementary information rather than votes to be tallied. Before making your choice, release your fear of wrong decisions. Perceived mistakes can lead you down wonderful and unexpected paths that expose you to life-changing insights. If you can let go of the notion that certain choices are utterly right while others are entirely wrong, you will be less tempted to invite others to take the reigns of your destiny.

choices-for-deliberate-creatorsWhen your choices are your own, you will be more likely to accept and be satisfied with the outcome of those choices. Your decisions will be a pure reflection of your desires, your creativity, your awareness, and your power. Since you understand that you must live with and take responsibility for your decisions, you will likely exercise great care when coming to conclusions. As you learn to make informed and autonomous choices, you will gain the freedom to consciously direct the flow of your life without interference.

Mar 01 2013

The Shelf Life of Food [Infographic]


Feb 25 2013

Delicious Sustenance for Mind Blowing Sex

Sexual Sustenance

Taking the time to investigate which fruits and vegetables appeal most in terms of their fragrance, shape, touch, texture (and of course, taste), allows us to see our sustenance with new eyes. With these characteristics in mind, gathering the ingredients for a “sensual” new way of eating can be fun.


  • Feast on fruits.Bursting with fiber and antioxidants, and thought to be imbued with aphrodisiac properties, many fresh fruits are as sensual as they are nutritious. Apples, apricots, bananas, cherries, coconut, dates, figs, grapes, mangoes, papayas, peaches, pears, plums, pomegranates, quince, raspberries and strawberries are celebrated in erotic literature throughout the world. Whichever fruits you choose, enjoy them often, and with a new appreciation of their attributes.
  • Devour delicious vegetables. Asparagus, carrots, celery, corn, cucumbers, carrots, eggplant and several other phallic-shaped vegetables have long been prized for their aphrodisiac effects. Although it may be hard to think of them as “erotic”, these earthly delights certainly invigorate the body with vitamins and minerals. The avocado, on the other hand, is undeniably sensual—so much so that the Spanish conquistadors helped spread its reputation throughout the world as a powerful stimulant. The juicy tomato, or “love apple,” a potent source of the powerhouse antioxidant, lycopene, was once a highly sought-after libido enhancer. Other veggies reputed to turn up the heat and fortify the body, include: beans, garlic, leeks, onions, parsley, peppers, soybeans, spinach, truffles, turnips and watercress. Serve these foods often for optimal sexual health.
  • Savor fruits of the sea and lean proteins. Shellfish including abalone, oysters, clams, scallops, shrimp, lobster and deep, cold-water fish like cod and halibut, fuel the body, the brain and sex drive. Oysters, for instance, are rich in zinc and iodine. Zinc, a vital sexual nutriment, is essential for testosterone production in men and women.
  • Eat lean meats. Meats such as chicken and turkey are healthful in moderation. “Good protein intake is Important, but excessive amounts can interfere with sexuality,” warns Elson Haas, M.D., and author of “Staying Healthy With Nutrition”. If possible, choose organic meats to avoid hormones, antibiotics and other additives typically found in these foods. Nuts, seeds and beans are also excellent sources of protein. Both pine nuts and pumpkin seeds are sexual adjuvants.
  • Get a little on the side. Although a healthy diet provides most of the nourishment necessary for sexual wellness, a multivitamin/mineral supplement offers extra health insurance. Vitamins including A, the B group, C and E are necessary for sexual functioning. Vitamin E, for instance, supplies the sex organs with sufficient oxygen. B vitamins, including niacin and B-5, can help men and women reach orgasm and improve sexual stamina. Selenium, manganese and of course, zinc, are also vital in regulating hormones and revving up sex drive. Rather than taking these individually, take a multivitamin/mineral to ensure correct dosages. Check with your doctor to learn which brands he or she recommends.


This is a guest post by Sereda Aleta Dailey  of Please visit and enjoy her site . She is currently giving a free ebook to all visitors titled "How To Manifest Self Love".  We welcome her post to CITB  and hope to see more of her writing soon.

Older posts «

%d bloggers like this: