Reach The End Of Your Rope? Tie A Knot In It And Hang On!

Life Gives You Rope To Tie Your Relationships Together

Ropes serve many purposes. Some are used to tie things together, others are used to secure an object, and some rope is used simply to be decorative. Life gives you rope to tie your relationships together, to form a lasso of security, and to use it to build webs of connections between you and the people around you. Your rope is designed to help you get through life, use it accordingly.

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Your rope is limitless. Now use it to your advantage. When you have reached the end of your rope, it is not because you are actually at the end of it. You have reached a point to allow yourself to re-evaluate your place within the web of life. This is your point to re-evaluate objects you have lassoed yourself to, and the relationships you have tied together with that rope. Trials always precede perseverance, and perseverance precedes maturity.

Your Life Is As Happy As The Things You Tie Yourself To

When you have reached the end of your rope, tie a knot in it. Do what must be done in order to make that rope grow. Untie yourself from the bad connections you have tied yourself to. Release your lasso from unsecured objects. Make new connections to help you along in life. Your rope is endless, your life is as happy as the things you tie yourself to.

The Truth Is That Your Rope Is As Limitless As You Decide To Make It

Hang on, waiting for the next season in your life can be difficult. In that difficulty, you are learning to wait for a better time. Although you may feel like you are at the end of your rope, the truth is that your rope is as limitless as you decide to make it. Just as the winter melts into spring, and the summer eventually turns to fall, the cycle of your life is always undergoing a change of seasons. Your rope is strengthened through each season, trial, storm, and moment in your life.

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What Can I Do To Change My Life?  EP:000

What Can I Do To Change My Life?  

This question is simple, the answer is quite complexed. Especially, to those in the chronic illness community.

Let’s establish a foundation to the development of a healthy mindset. Living with the many ways chronic illness changes your life, places stress on your life, making you feel damaged, weakened, and even broken. As people go through life they develop active or passive attitudes depending on comfort and/or feeling in control of that situation. Often, chronic illness forces us into a self-protective, subconscious reaction by taking control of our emotional and physical surroundings.

To achieve this, we develop a Fixed Mindset.

FIXED MINDSET

A Fixed Mindset is when you need to look smart and in control while internally feeling weak and out of control. In order to achieve this, you develop a Fixed Mindset and you:

  • Avoid Challenges
  • Give Up Easily
  • See Effort As Fruitless Or Worse
  • Ignore Useful Negative Feedback
  • Feel Threatened By The Success Of Others

This Fixed Mindset obviously leads to stagnation and the feeling of being physically and emotionally stuck.

You want to change your life and so you have to do the opposite. Our starting point is Changing YOUR Mindset.

The key to any successful life change is a Positive Growth Mindset.

POSITIVE MINDSET

The very first and most important step is, change your thought patterns. If you are thinking negatively about life and all the things around, then you should change your thoughts.

To really change your life, you need a Positive Growth Mindset.

GROWTH MINDSET

Having a Growth Mindset you can change anything in your life. The view you adopt in your life changes the way you lead your life.

Having a growth mindset means:

  • Seeing Effort As Path To Mastery
  • Learning From Criticism
  • Finding Lessons Of Inspiration In The Success Of Others
  • Embracing Challenges
  • Persisting In The Face Of Setbacks

The result is a better sense of free will. You create a life that YOU desire.

POSITIVE GROWTH MINDSET

Keep a Positive Growth Mindset.

Dive deep into it and urge yourself to ask even more questions.

  • Every person is unique,
  • Every person is connected with everyone
  • Each person needs to develop his/her personal reality.

That should be based on what is real, valid, no matter the time, place, circumstances. Then, you can develop methods, explanations, perception suitable to your uniqueness, and compatible with the rest of the universe.

If you really want to change your life, watch for my next post “The 2 Minute Rule”

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Being Brave

5 Ways How To Develop Courage

  • The guy who jumps onto subway tracks to save a stranger with a train approach
  • The clerk who chases down a robber,
  • A passerby stops at an accident site to save victims:

When you hear stories of incredible acts of courage,

Do you wonder, would I do the same?

Some scientists say those risk takers are wired differently, Studies show genetics play a significant role in the willingness to take risks. Recent research finds environmental factors and emotions greatly influence risk-taking behavior too. Other scientists look to brain mechanisms for answers:

“The best things in life are on the other side of fear!”  – Will Smith

Being Brave
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A great example of this situation is explained by Will Smith when he went skydiving. He explained this “The concept of fear” is only present up until the point where he took action. Immediately afterward he was in the moment – after he left the airplane it was pure bliss.

Courage and muscle have a lot in common.

The more they are used them the stronger they become. Neglected they slowly become frail, weak, and atrophied.

 Make a list, a long list of everything thing that scares you and slowly tackle each one by one. Start small and build up. Just like exercising a muscle – exercise your courage. The more often you do so the stronger it will get and the more confidence you will build to tackle bigger and bigger challenges.

Let’s look at some easy ones you can try.

  • The Coffee Shop Challenge – Go to your area coffee shop, place your coffee order, and when you’re ready to pay – Ask them for a 10% discount.
  • The Eye Contact Challenge – While walking in public, make eye contact with the people you pass. Keep eye contact until one of you break it. It’s important that you keep an open/warm/positive expression on your face (you don’t want to look scary or crazy).
  • The Laying Down Challenge – Walk into a crowded place and lay down for 15 – 20 seconds. Do not select a place where you will be a nuisance. If someone asks what you’re doing, just tell them you’re taking a break and collecting your thoughts.
  • The Cold Shower Challenge This is one of my best discoveries:  The last 2 minutes of my shower I turn off all the hot water and blast the cold. It’s something that I do because I feel great afterward. I do it instinctively now, without hesitation or thinking of it, but when I got started I would get really nervous before doing it. On a lesser scale, it’s like that skydiving example – it’s scary before you do it, it’s intense while the cold water is flowing, it’s amazing afterward.

    “Courage is not the absence of fear, but the capacity to act despite our fears.”  –  John McCain

  • Public Speaking Challenge – There the old saying that people are more afraid of public speaking than they are of dying. There are many sources of information across the internet. Why? Because almost everyone has a fear of public speaking. Toast Masters is a great way to practice! 

 

You should definitely find things that make you so nervous that you feel it in the pit of your stomach. The more you practice, the stronger you will become!

Remember:

Being Afraid fear alone
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There are many different kinds of courage required in life, and you will hardly find one person who has them all.

Some people are fearless when approaching girls/guys or standing up to bullies. Going to the gym as an overweight person, the safety of a steady salary to become an entrepreneur, quitting an addiction, ending toxic relationships, chasing your dreams etc.l

 Courage isn’t a habit you can form, but a choice you must make that doesn’t get easier each time.               

Now that your path becomes more organized and clear

You will begin to like you.When you begin to like you, you will do what you like.

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If you believe in being brave, you will be brave. Just believe and become. But first have a clear mind to focus, remove the things pulling you back.

Scientists don’t know for sure if being courageous is something you’re born with; they also don’t know whether we can target the parts of the brain active in overcoming certain fears. What experts do know is that many different behaviors and traits define a courageous act, some of which can be learned.

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Practice courage often. Display it by doing and trying different things.  Things Like being unique, or facing a fear. Big challenges produce big courage but small ones every so often maintain its strength.

Do what scares you. Quieting your fear of is putting yourself in the thick of it. Plus, by choosing to face your fear, it gives you a feeling of control.  Believe in your own ability to achieve a goal and a component of courageous acts.

Plan to be brave. Being prepared may help you draw on that reservoir of courage; the moment of indecisiveness is when your emotions come in.”

Remember the why. Courage is more than just facing fear; it involves taking risks for a noble or good cause. Focus on the reason you wanted to take an action to help boost confidence. When that reason is important or morally right, it may be the most encouraging of all.

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RikkiSpeaks – You Have To Trust Someone Somehow

As I boarded my first bus, tears filled my eyes…

I watched as my family pulled away which tore at all of my emotions. I knew I had to make this trip, there was no question in my mind. I was doing what was right, although it didn’t lessen my knowing how badly I would miss them.

My first stop was in an inner city bus stop. I was faced with an extremely long layover and was now surrounded by a hoard of strangers. Looking at my surroundings, I noticed that this stop never slept. I was not unlike the place, as there was no way I could have closed my eyes. For the longest time, I just watched, as people moved about and children cried. Every type of person, of every ethnic background, seemed to swallow me making me the minority. After all, I was traveling alone.

Originally, while learning it would take me twenty  three and a half hours to travel what should have taken me nine by car, I was a little bit scared. It was a typical response, as people fear what they do not know. I was no where near a seasoned bus traveler. I made sure to my luggage within arms reach, as I was unsure of what to expect. I felt that making it to my destination with clothing was the best route to take and I wanted no chance of not ensuring this simple thing.

After sitting for quite some time, and suffering waffle butt syndrome from the uncomfortable iron benches, I decided I had to move. Exhaustion had set in, and I just couldn’t stay seated anymore. Hauling my luggage with me, I made my way outside.

Being a very friendly person, I have always been able to speak to whomever I am around. Boredom caused me to do just that. I made conversation with several people. Some were a little more apprehensive of my open abilities to say “hello”, while others seemed somewhat thankful to have someone to talk to.

We all spoke of why we were making our way, to our final destinations. Some were traveling as far as across the country. There were people who were making a new start while others decided simply to meet family and friends on the other side. There were even full families taking a quick vacation together. I, myself, was heading to help my very ill father.

I looked in the eyes of these people, from all walks of life, and found a little of myself in each of them. Oddly we were, after all, in this together. The more people I met, the more I felt responsible to watch out for each of them. Strangely, they all felt the same about me.

I had taken a couple of young fellas under my wing. The pair had met on a bus, and made it a point to watch out for each other. I decided to take care of them because I found them to be unworldly and it seemed they had no idea what to expect from life. We spoke of the girlfriends they had left behind, and they had asked for my advice on love and other topics. They listened as I vented about my fears of what I would learn when I got to my father’s hospital room. After a long while, they both became very tired and I agreed to watch their things, while they laid their young heads on a table and fell asleep. I woke them, when their bus was called, to ensure that they didn’t miss it. A small nod and wave and they were gone. Yet this time I didn’t feel so alone.

I had met a family who I connected with quickly. One of them won over my heart with her honest approach. She said to me, “I don’t understand why people steal luggage, because I don’t even want to lug mine, let alone someone else’s things.” Between giggles, I agreed. This family didn’t see me as a different color, nor did I them. We’d traded off luggage watching duties when each of us needed to get up and walk away. They had offered to feed me from the supplies that they had carried with them. I knew that their trip would be a long one, and yet they had offered to care for me from the little they had. I politely declined, knowing they would inevitably need it more than me, as they had many more mouths to feed. It didn’t change the fact that the offer had touched my soul.

A man who was seated on his luggage, beside the soda machine, passed me a handful of change from a purple Crown Royal drawstring bag. The money changer had met it’s demise and he saw me struggling to find enough change in my purse for a water. He refused to take any money in return, because as he had said, “my trip is now coming to an end, and yours has just begun.”

After boarding my next bus I met another man, who was a minister. He was heading to the same final stop as me. For the longest time, I listened as he spoke to the others on the bus, of God and His glory. He, then, began speaking to me and we quickly befriended each other.

Together, we’d made a layover in a very sketchy area. I had been speaking to some of the residents of the Indiana town we had stopped in. Those people were, without a doubt, some of the roughest people I had ever met.

There were two who I had made the acquaintance of at separate times during the stop. One had been assaulted by a bat and pipe, just days before, and wore the most terrible bruises I had ever seen. Another had been stabbed in the neck while falling asleep next to the town’s river bank. Curiosity took over and their broken bodies made me want to find out what had torn apart their souls. I had learned that drugs had been a part in each story and my heart broke for them. I reasoned that although they had made their own decisions in life they might not have been given any opportunity to avoid these mistakes. Each openly told me their stories and seemed comfortable in doing so. I reminded each of them that they had lived through their attacks, and were still here to tell about it. I challenged each of them to find the reason they had been given that second chance.

As I spoke to the people that everyone else would have shied away from the minister had later admitted that he had watched over me, the whole time, from afar.

As I stepped foot at my last stop, it occurred to me that I had been afraid for nothing. People are people no matter where you are. Everyone has a story to tell, although some are more sinister and terrifying than others. Some people just need someone to listen, and to care enough to give advice that no one else has the guts to give.

While becoming a bleary eyed traveler, I found I was never really alone. It is important, in life to remember that you have to trust someone sometime, even if it is someone that no one else would take the time to try to understand. No matter how soft or hardened the people were that I had met on my travels, just offering an ear and a heartfelt word seemed to sate the savage beast in all of them.

I shall board a bus again soon, to head back home. Though it will be heart wrenching leaving my father behind, I fear not the people I will encounter. Strangers are, after all, just friends I have yet to meet.

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10 Writing Tips from the Masters

As the world becomes increasingly digital, writing becomes more important. This is especially true for non-writers. If you work in an office, the majority of your communications are made with text by email or IM. Whether you like it or not, your ability to exchange ideas, collaborate with others, and ultimately succeed, hinges on the ability to write effectively.

Here are 10 timeless tips to help you improve style and substance, straight from the pens of humanity’s finest authors.

1. Cut the boring parts

I try to leave out the parts that people skip. ~Elmore Leonard

Unless you’re writing for personal reasons alone, you need to consider the attention of your readers. There’s no point is publishing content that isn’t useful, interesting, or both.

2. Eliminate unnecessary words

Substitute “damn” every time you’re inclined to write “very;” your editor will delete it and the writing will be just as it should be. ~Mark Twain

I used to feel that using words like “really”, “actually”, or “extremely” made writing more forceful. It doesn’t. They only get in the way. Cut them and never look back.

3. Write with passion

Fill your paper with the breathings of your heart. ~William Wordsworth

It’s not hard to realize that unless you’re excited about your writing no one else will be.

4. Paint a picture

Don’t tell me the moon is shining; show me the glint of light on broken glass. ~Anton Chekhov

Simply stating something is fine, but when you need to capture attention, using similes, metaphors, and vivid imagery to paint a picture creates a powerful emotional response.

5. Keep it simple

Vigorous writing is concise. ~William Strunk Jr.

Maybe it was all those late nights, struggling to fill out mandatory 10 page papers, but many people seem to think that worthwhile writing is long and drawn out. It’s more difficult (and effective) to express yourself in the simplest possible manner.

6. Do it for love

Write without pay until somebody offers to pay. ~Mark Twain

When you’re just starting out it’s hard to decide where to begin. So don’t. Just start writing. A blog is a good place to start. The most valuable benefit is the feedback.

7. Learn to thrive on criticism

You have to know how to accept rejection and reject acceptance. ~Ray Bradbury

Writing means putting yourself at the mercy of anonymous hecklers and shameless sycophants. Learn to make the most of the insults and distrust the praise.

8. Write all the time

Quantity produces quality. If you only write a few things, you’re doomed. ~Ray BradburyThe way you define yourself as a writer is that you write every time you have a free minute. If you didn’t behave that way you would never do anything. ~John Irving

9. Write what you know … or what you want to know

If any man wish to write in a clear style, let him be first clear in his thoughts; and if any would write in a noble style, let him first possess a noble soul. ~Johann Wolfgang von GoetheLearn as much by writing as by reading. ~Lord Acton

Successful writing is all about trust and authority. It makes sense to write about your area of expertise. If you don’t have an expertise, reading and writing is the best way to develop one and put it on display.

10. Be unique and unpredictable

I owe my success to having listened respectfully to the very best advice, and then going away and doing the exact opposite. ~G.K. ChestertonConsistency is the last refuge of the unimaginative. ~Oscar WildeZest. Gusto. How rarely one hears these words used. How rarely do we see people living, or for that matter, creating by them. Yet if I were asked to name the most important items in a writer’s make-up, the things that shape his material and rush him along the road to where he wants to go, I could only warn him to look to his zest, see to his gusto. ~Ray Bradbury

Following what works will only get you so far. Experiment with new styles, even if it means taking criticism. Without moving forward, you’ll be left behind.

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Brain Training To Wake Up The Genius In You

Whу should аnyone соnѕider а brain training program іn thе first place?

The promise іs thаt training thе brain tо bе mоrе efficient giveѕ оne аn edge іn life. The premise іѕ that еасh onе оf uѕ is а genius. This genius of our brain is wherе incredible abilities lie dormant, nоt dead, but juѕt in а slumber. And аnуonе саn wake uр thіѕ genius wіth thе proper brain training.

“You’re a genius!”
You juѕt dоn’t knоw it-yet

What if Albert Einstein, Isaac Newton, Copernicus etc. are nо smarter thаn thе ordinary person? What іf they јuѕt found a wаy tо exercise thоѕе parts of the brain whеrе mоst abilities reside? We cаn аll wake up thе genius іn us ѕo we саn realize our full potential.

This capacity of thе brain dоes nоt depend оn genetic inheritance, contrary to prevailing wisdom. Every one, regаrdlesѕ оf his/her present mental capacity, hаs thiѕ genius potential bу virtue оf bеing born.

If that sounds strange tо believe, сonѕіdеr idiot savants. Some оf them display incredible genius in оnе narrow field, tо thе exclusion оf others-music, mathematical calculations, photographic memory etc.

Wake uр tо Your Greatness

What іf аll оf us hаvе thеsе abilities locked in оur brains? Suppose we сan awaken thе genius of the brain to take advantage оf іtѕ full potential?

Would we not all be geniuses? It is theѕе abilities, which іѕ withіn everyone’s reach, thаt cоuld be thе reward оf brain training. The average person mау find іt difficult tо access theѕe abilities under normal circumstances.

But wе havе evidence thаt thesе abilities exist sоmetіmes durіng high emotional stress. How еlѕe can we explain the strength оf an old woman whо ѕоmehоw found the strength tо lift a car off her grandson?

Where dіd that strength cоmе from? Is іt роѕsiblе tо tap into thіs kind оf ability wіthоut beіng forced tо dig for іt by tragedy?

Get Your brain Supercharged

When thе brain іѕ supercharged, onе becomeѕ а mental giant with the chance tо realize thе full potential оf thе brain ѕuсh as:

  1. Developing a photographic memory
  2. Never forgetting аnу thing, ever
  3. Recalling аny information аt will
  4. Reading thousands оf words аnd more рer minute
  5. Reading аn entire book in minutes rаther thаn in hours or еven days
  6. Retaining аnd comprehending аll information a person encounters
  7. Recalling аll thіs information at аny time, effortlessly
  8. Accessing the super-conscious mind аnd gaining incredible confidence
  9. Be the master оf оnes own life and not а victim of external forces

These are thе native states of thе brain. And the secret tо unlocking thеѕе seemingly miraculous feats, iѕ gaining access tо thе subconscious. The conscious mind іѕ the seat of rationalization. it iѕ handicapped іn scope with rationalization and limitations.

Children аre born withоut this kind of limitations.That’s whу thеу pick uр languages, cultural knowledge and nuances effortlessly. That’s whу thеу arе аlѕo good judges оf characters.

But aѕ thеy grow older аnd arе contaminated bу civilization and a limiting educational system, thеѕе abilities recede.

The decisions оf thе conscious mind arе mоѕtly based оn faulty reasoning. The subconscious on thе othеr hand is where аll genius аnd possibilities reside. It is thе seat оf inspiration аnd genius.

The problem іs thаt thе conscious mind аnd thе subconscious do not readily communicate in moѕt оf us-at leаѕt not consciously.

This gap іn communication іѕ whаt a good brain training program bridges. And when thіѕ іѕ accomplished, аll thе talents аnd abilities we dіdn’t evеn knоw we had, arе awakened.

Get аn edge With a Super Brain

What are the implications оf theѕе if the promises of training the brain аrе tо be believed? It соuld enable students to study less, learn more, get super grades and ѕtill hаve time for friends and leisure.

It сould enable any оne to process information at a faster rate, including learning а new language іn weeks rаthеr thаn in years

It cоuld enable business people to digest mоre information related to thеir markets faster, аnd thuѕ hаve an advantage ovеr the competition.

This access tо mоrе information wоuld helр in faster and bettеr decision-making. And good decision-making іѕ аt thе heart оf anу successful business. Good decision-making iѕ why somе CEOs gеt paid high bonuses.

An employee can benefit frоm brain training by improving productivity and performance, whіch іn turn сould greatly enhance promotion prospects. It can even enable people tо quit thеіr jobs tо start their own businesses.

Your brain power giveѕ you an edge

In thіѕ age of information explosion, thоsе who саn access, comprehend, recall, process and put this information tо usе will definіtelу gain an edge.

“The illiterate оf thе 21st century wіll not be thoѕе whо саnnot read or write, but instead, thoѕе who cаnnot learn, unlearn, аnd thеn relearn”-Alvin Toffler

This wіll аlsо bе true оf thе successful and thе failures оf the 21st century. The capacity to absorb аll this information will largely depend оn thе efficiency оf our brain power.

 

This, аnd more iѕ thе promise of brain training-to expand the mind, helр bridge thе gap bеtwееn thе conscious аnd the subconscious аnd thuѕ unleash thе genius potential of thе brain.

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