The biggest threat to any type of relationship is
When you don’t like something then express it. Most importantly do it without trying to hurt someone because they hurt you. Instead, try helping them feel what you feel, expressed by both your words and actions.
When people understand
they usually do not judge.
The better you know yourself,
the better you can know others.
Spending time with a person is how you get to know them.
In the same way you must build a trusting relationship with yourself. You need to spend time getting to know more about you. You can never get to know yourself if you are surrounded by lots of noise, friends, and family, or if you are always preoccupied with things to do.
Being around others is vital.
We learn from their experiences and perspectives. It is just as important spending time alone, in peaceful surroundings. Peaceful surroundings doesn’t mean absolute silence. It means the absence of interruption and other distractions.
If you’re always listening to others,
you’ll just become the sum of
everyone else’s ideas.
Your deepest reflections cannot be heard unless you make time for them to be heard. Without really listening to yourself, you won’t have anything to keep you grounded. You’ll fall into all types of emotional traps. Most important you’ll find it difficult to resist the negative influences of others.
Of all the judgments we pass in life,
none is more important than
the judgment we pass on ourselves.
You may also want to use this opportunity to consider your life goals in all aspects: physical, mental and spiritual. You need to sit with your emotions and spend the time to distinguish them and label them. In the questioning process, ask yourself what your values are.
Core values will be things like compassion, honesty, love, kindness, loyalty, etc. Clarifying your core values will give you an exact picture of who you are.
- Find out what makes your heart sing.
- Find out what keeps you excited.
It is important your actions are supported by your core values and fundamentals. If not, you will find yourself in self sabotage. The ability to reach your highest potential is severely limited when you are busy self sabotaging!
Find out what inspires you. These are the things that define you.
Being with nature is also a good idea. You tend to connect better to your inner being, when you are more relaxed. The answers that you seek, while in a state of mental relaxation, surface more easily. You become clearer and clearer, in the intents that you sent out to the Universe(God). Because this intent is in perfect alignment with the real you, you do not experience any conflict or sabotage.
Time alone to
meditate and reflect
is productive time.
You cannot expect to function well physically everyday, if you are out of balance in other aspects such as mentally and spiritually. Very importantly, consider putting aside “me” time on a regular basis. I choose to spend “me” time meditating, reading books or simply just be with myself.
You must guard your personal quiet time and really make use of it.
This is your alone time with the Universe (God).
This is inviolable sacred time.
- This is when you connect with your soul.
- This is when you learn how to be at peace with the storms of life.
- This is where you’ll find comfort and guidance.
This is what defines you.
This is when you know the importance of love.
The term “Journey of Self-discovery” refers to a series of events whereby a person attempts to determine how they feel about spiritual issues or priorities, rather than following the opinions of family, friends or peer pressure.
Self-discovery is the capacity of humans to exercise introspection,
The willingness to learn more about their fundamental
nature and purpose.
If the only emotion concepts you recognize are “I feel good” and “I feel bad” you’re not going to be very emotionally healthy. But, if you’re able to distinguish the more specific “I feel alone” from merely “I feel bad” you’re able to deal with the problem.
Examining your life under a microscope can be uncomfortable and gruesome.
You will be grateful for starting the process of self discovery, because rewards unfold when you know more about yourself. Understand how you make improvements to your behavior, thoughts and emotions. Uncovering answers will help peel off layer-by-layer the negative thoughts that have imprinted in your mind. These negative thoughts and beliefs are your obstacles to inner growth.
You’ve probably never thought about learning words as a path to greater emotional health.
Words Seed Your Concepts
Concepts Drive Your Predictions
Predictions Regulate Your Body
Your Body Determines How You Feel.
The greater your vocabulary
the more precisely your brain can calibrate your body’s needs.
People who exhibit higher emotional expression
- Go to the doctor less frequently
- Use medication less frequently
- Spend fewer days hospitalized for illness
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This insight is directly connected to your relationship with others. Most importantly it’s also connected to our relationship with the Universe (God). What we believe about the Universe (God) and it’s expectations for us is vital to what we believe about ourselves.
Self discovery is not an a one day or a one week affair.
It can take a lifetime of building a relationship with yourself. Note that your inner self is not going to stay constant either. You are evolving all the time. Based on your self discovery at any point in time, you make conscious decisions for changes. Additionally, as you mature, you gain insights that make up the new you.
Self-discovery is about being mindful of who you really are, instead of what culture says you should be.
It is important to ask yourself what you want out of life and work towards it. Aligning with your soul’s’ purpose brings about fulfilment. Without a purpose and direction, you are going to feel like a ship which is going nowhere. I can assure you that if you don’t go through this process of evaluation on what your purpose is, you are going to experience regret while on your deathbed.
You need to confront your emotional issues and weaknesses
because they reveal the separation from the real you.
The real you is authentic, loving and nurturing. The process of self discovery is not just about unearthing nasty stuff about yourself. It is about honoring your strengths and abilities. As you become more aware of what you are good at, you lessen the list on weaknesses.
Learn to forgive yourself.
Negative beliefs tend to invade every aspect of your life. If you have feelings of low self worth, then you are likely to carry them in the relationships you have at home, in the office, with your friends, relatives and loved ones.
You, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. When your outer self is aligned with your inner being, you will feel happy and free!
The art of Zen meditation is a simple one. You don’t need any prior experience. The meditation is the experience. You don’t need to have read any books about it. The wisdom you receive from a Zen practice is original. It comes from the quiet space in your soul.
You don’t even need to know what Zen means. It’s not mystical or rare or even necessarily spiritual. It’s the simplest and most natural thing in the world.
Zen meditation is not a religious thing. Atheists practice and benefit from it in the same way Christians, Buddhists, and Muslims do.
Zen meditation has nothing to do with where you live or where you’re from. You can be anywhere in the world and benefit from it. Peace of mind is not geographically specific.
I believe even animals practice Zen. I have seen cats, monkeys, lizards, dogs, and many other animals behaving as though they were meditating. Not just staring intently at food bowls, but genuinely looking like they were actively seeking the quiet spaces within themselves.
I urge you to give it a try. Sit comfortably in a chair. Gently close your eyes. Bring your attention to the breath moving effortlessly in and out of your body. Feel how it ebbs and flows, like water lapping at the shore of the ocean.
If other thoughts come into your mind, simply acknowledge them and bring your attention back to your breath and how your body feels. Pain, pleasure, comfort, discomfort; just feel them. Experience these sensations without judgement about whether the sensations are good or bad.
Zen allows you to be aware of how your actions affect the world around you. This allows you to be more productive. A cluttered mind is like a cluttered desk. Makes it hard to be fully productive. Meditation clears clutter from your mind. It stops that endless wheel of worrisome thoughts and allows you instead to focus on how to move forward from where you are.
After practicing Zen and mindfulness meditation for over 20 years, I can honestly say I have benefited more from meditation than from any other single thing I have ever done. Seriously.
Give zen meditation a try. The worst thing that can happen is you feel like you wasted a few minutes of otherwise productive time. The best thing that can happen is that you’ll find a simple, free, and effortless way to make your entire life better.
Did you ever wish you could just achieve that peace of mind you keep requesting?
How to Practice Zen Meditation
Allow you breathing to flow in deeply and do not judge how ‘well’ you are doing it. Just be in the moment and focus on the inhalations and the exhalations. Naturally these breaths will become more abdominally centered and natural. As thoughts and distractions flow into your mind, just accept them and refocus your mind on your breathing. It is okay if this feels difficult – as you practice it will become easier and easier to center your mind on the breath and nothing else. The goal is to reach a heightened level of awareness without judgment.
Once you feel balanced and sure that you have received enough from your session, you may slowly take in one final breath. For some this meditation is ten minutes, for others this could be much longer. Slowly release your position and praise yourself for giving you the time necessary to become a higher self.
Zen or Zazen Meditation practiced daily can create a calm and peace in your life – creating a happier more complete you.
Our Core Relationships Define Everything About Who We Are
How We Live Our Lives As Individual Human Beings.
Our 5 internal core relationships are essentially our relationship with the various aspects of ourselves, and greatly influence our 7 external core relationships, our interaction with the world around us. Going back to the core is the only effective way to permanently transform ourselves and create lasting change in our lives.
These core relationships not only shape our thoughts and behaviors, but also our very perceptions of ourselves and our world, thus defining the opportunities we are able to perceive and the reality we experience.
Understanding our unique core relationships allows us to experience more freedom and empowers us to create more fulfillment in our lives.
Our 5 Internal Core Relationships
To better understand the mechanics of our relationship with ourselves, which is composite and complex, we can define separate but overlapping relationships with several different aspects of ourselves. These core aspects are Love, Meaning, Purpose, Power and Coherence/Integration.
Coherence/Integration is the synergy of our fundamental aspects – physical, mental and spiritual, as well as the synergy of finer elements within each of those fundamental aspects. The correct function of the physical systems that make up the physical body is required for the health and well being of the body to become a serviceable power. The integration of the finer aspects of mind are required for coherent clarity and focus, and for the development of self-worth and self-love.
Love can be defined as our ability to accept and integrate all that we are into a coherent and powerful presence. It allows us to transcend the illusion of duality and is the seat of our power to manage our lives and consciously create our reality. Love can also be defined as unity and harmony, beginning within us and extending infinitely outward.
Meaning is expanded from our underlying beliefs about ourselves, the universe, our connection to it and relevance within it. Our sense of meaning is something we are constantly seeking to expand. Meaning produces resilience and clarity of purpose in life.
Purpose is derived from meaning, from our definition of self and our connection to the universe which surrounds us. Without a clearly defined purpose we lack the clarity necessary for true success in life.
Power can be described as our ability to master our lives in a way which serves us and produces the results we desire. Our level of Power is reliant on our other internal relationships with Love, Meaning, Purpose and Coherence/Integration. Authentic power derives from being authentic, or true to ourselves, which in turn requires that we know and understand ourselves intimately.
Our 7 External Core Relationships
Each of the 7 external core relationships is associated with one of the 7 basic areas of life (or aspect of our interaction with the world around us) which can be developed into a power. As individuals we have a natural affinity and interest with certain areas, and a natural tendency to ignore or avoid other areas. These 7 core relationships are arranged in a hierarchy of varying priority dependent on our interest in the specific areas. Knowing and understanding this hierarchy brings clarity to the apparent chaos in certain areas of our lives, explain why we express certain behavior patterns, and why we have been unsuccessful in certain areas in the past.
In each of the 7 basic areas of life our level of empowerment can range from extreme disempowerment to extraordinary empowerment. This level of empowerment in any specific area is not measured relative to other people, but rather relative to our specific needs, and the level of empowerment of the other 6 areas of our own life. Areas neglected become challenging, the more disempowered we are in certain areas the more severely we are challenged in these areas, with extreme disempowerment leading to challenges overflowing to affect even the empowered areas of our life.
It is pretty self-evident that our relationship with our physical body is important, as having robust physical health and vitality will obviously benefit us regardless of which areas of life we choose to specialize in. There are of course people who specialize in the physical realm of health, vitality, strength, endurance and beauty, etc. Some of them develop these qualities to levels where these qualities become a source of power in their life. World class athletes, super-models, health & fitness gurus,
Knowledge and wisdom are essential ingredients for success and fulfillment. Being empowered in this area simply requires that we have accumulated the knowledge and wisdom we need to fulfill our life goals. Of course, as with the other areas, there are those who are focused on this area and dedicate themselves to accumulating vast amounts of knowledge and/or wisdom. These people are often labeled geniuses, but in truth we all have our own unique brand of genius, its just a matter of recognizing, appreciating and expressing it to its full potential.
This area is a particularly broad area, because although “spirituality” generally describes a connection to a higher intelligent order, our spiritual mission in life can be expressed in any of the other areas as well. Here the question of authority comes into play, as there is in reality no authority above our own because each of us is uniquely connected to the spiritual source. Disempowerment in this area would entail suppressing our desires because they are not condoned by the spiritual authority of the day. As Einstein said ‘my contempt for authority made me one”.
When we become our own authority, listen to our own inner guidance, and follow our dreams we become an authority unto ourselves. Extreme empowerment would be having developed a high level of awareness and connection to the higher order intelligence, being able to “download” information in the form of inspiration, and would also include an unwavering clarity of purpose.
Relationships with family and life partners can be developed to a high level of power, or they can be disempowering. If we suppress or repress our desires for fear of losing loved-ones we are disempowered. If they are supportive and encouraging, mutually fulfilling relationships, then obviously they are empowering. The concepts of compromise and sacrifice have no place in truly empowered relationships, where each is appreciative of the others qualities, strengths and empowerment, while also accepting of each others weaknesses and less empowered areas.
Social connection & influence as you may have already guessed, can range from disempowered reclusiveness and lack of influence, to celebrity status with huge influential power.
Vocation in this context is far more than your chosen profession, it is your calling, or your self-defined life purpose. Some people know from a young age what they want to do with their lives, while others take many years to figure it out. In the end, we all have within ourselves a purposeful and meaningful calling in life.
Financial empowerment is today one of the areas in which we are most pressured to succeed. Of course wealth is used here in the broadest possible context, including our accumulation of relationships, influence, knowledge, wisdom, health, self-worth, and fulfillment, etc.
Whу should аnyone соnѕider а brain training program іn thе first place?
The promise іs thаt training thе brain tо bе mоrе efficient giveѕ оne аn edge іn life. The premise іѕ that еасh onе оf uѕ is а genius. This genius of our brain is wherе incredible abilities lie dormant, nоt dead, but juѕt in а slumber. And аnуonе саn wake uр thіѕ genius wіth thе proper brain training.
What if Albert Einstein, Isaac Newton, Copernicus etc. are nо smarter thаn thе ordinary person? What іf they јuѕt found a wаy tо exercise thоѕе parts of the brain whеrе mоst abilities reside? We cаn аll wake up thе genius іn us ѕo we саn realize our full potential.
This capacity of thе brain dоes nоt depend оn genetic inheritance, contrary to prevailing wisdom. Every one, regаrdlesѕ оf his/her present mental capacity, hаs thiѕ genius potential bу virtue оf bеing born.
If that sounds strange tо believe, сonѕіdеr idiot savants. Some оf them display incredible genius in оnе narrow field, tо thе exclusion оf others-music, mathematical calculations, photographic memory etc.
Wake uр tо Your Greatness
Would we not all be geniuses? It is theѕе abilities, which іѕ withіn everyone’s reach, thаt cоuld be thе reward оf brain training. The average person mау find іt difficult tо access theѕe abilities under normal circumstances.
But wе havе evidence thаt thesе abilities exist sоmetіmes durіng high emotional stress. How еlѕe can we explain the strength оf an old woman whо ѕоmehоw found the strength tо lift a car off her grandson?
Where dіd that strength cоmе from? Is іt роѕsiblе tо tap into thіs kind оf ability wіthоut beіng forced tо dig for іt by tragedy?
Get Your brain Supercharged
When thе brain іѕ supercharged, onе becomeѕ а mental giant with the chance tо realize thе full potential оf thе brain ѕuсh as:
- Developing a photographic memory
- Never forgetting аnу thing, ever
- Recalling аny information аt will
- Reading thousands оf words аnd more рer minute
- Reading аn entire book in minutes rаther thаn in hours or еven days
- Retaining аnd comprehending аll information a person encounters
- Recalling аll thіs information at аny time, effortlessly
- Accessing the super-conscious mind аnd gaining incredible confidence
- Be the master оf оnes own life and not а victim of external forces
These are thе native states of thе brain. And the secret tо unlocking thеѕе seemingly miraculous feats, iѕ gaining access tо thе subconscious. The conscious mind іѕ the seat of rationalization. it iѕ handicapped іn scope with rationalization and limitations.
Children аre born withоut this kind of limitations.That’s whу thеу pick uр languages, cultural knowledge and nuances effortlessly. That’s whу thеу arе аlѕo good judges оf characters.
The decisions оf thе conscious mind arе mоѕtly based оn faulty reasoning. The subconscious on thе othеr hand is where аll genius аnd possibilities reside. It is thе seat оf inspiration аnd genius.
The problem іs thаt thе conscious mind аnd thе subconscious do not readily communicate in moѕt оf us-at leаѕt not consciously.
This gap іn communication іѕ whаt a good brain training program bridges. And when thіѕ іѕ accomplished, аll thе talents аnd abilities we dіdn’t evеn knоw we had, arе awakened.
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What are the implications оf theѕе if the promises of training the brain аrе tо be believed? It соuld enable students to study less, learn more, get super grades and ѕtill hаve time for friends and leisure.
It сould enable any оne to process information at a faster rate, including learning а new language іn weeks rаthеr thаn in years
It cоuld enable business people to digest mоre information related to thеir markets faster, аnd thuѕ hаve an advantage ovеr the competition.
This access tо mоrе information wоuld helр in faster and bettеr decision-making. And good decision-making іѕ аt thе heart оf anу successful business. Good decision-making iѕ why somе CEOs gеt paid high bonuses.
An employee can benefit frоm brain training by improving productivity and performance, whіch іn turn сould greatly enhance promotion prospects. It can even enable people tо quit thеіr jobs tо start their own businesses.
Your brain power giveѕ you an edge
“The illiterate оf thе 21st century wіll not be thoѕе whо саnnot read or write, but instead, thoѕе who cаnnot learn, unlearn, аnd thеn relearn”-Alvin Toffler
This wіll аlsо bе true оf thе successful and thе failures оf the 21st century. The capacity to absorb аll this information will largely depend оn thе efficiency оf our brain power.